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Penises are fun.

Penises are fun.

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Now I need my coffee.  Later, tumblies.

Now I need my coffee. Later, tumblies.

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youandmeandmaybeher said: Still loving the blog. One of my favorites. So, from what I understand, you're a bartender at a private club. How do you feel about/respond to advances from the patrons? Have you ever taken them up on an offer--whatever that may be? See, I'm finding myself taken with a gorgeous woman at my local bar, and I feel like I need to say 'Hey, you're really cute, what are you doing after work?', but she's at work! I wouldn't like that I'm a regular, so I know her a bit, but what's the approach?

There is no approach because, as far as I’m concerned, it’s not done.

Being a female bartender or server is kind of like being a stripper. Now, there are always going to be exceptions to this, but in the end, not one of us is there to meet men. We’re there to work. But… there is that alluring element, isn’t there? That come-hither nuance that comes along with our complete awareness that you’re checking out our asses once we turn aside from you, plus the fact that you’re buzzed from your drink. And, like a stripper, we know that as long as you keep imbibing those drinks and as long as we smile and sway a little hip, chances are good that our tip became as big as that thang swelling in your lap.

In my case, my work environment is very refined and exclusive, and advances from the members are usually very rare, or handled in such a discrete manner to be almost totally unseen. And yes, I have known co-workers who have boinked members. Me, I’ve only mixed my working and my boinking only once, and that was with a co-worker who was a she.

But if I were to “really” answer your question, I would ask myself if I were genuinely developing a friendship with this bartender of yours. If she’s involved in something in your life that’s outside of her work establishment, or you think she might be interested in being so, then maybe you have a chance to get started as friends. But if you’re going to just make a pass at her while drinking a drink that she’s mixed, then odds are you’re just going to come off as yet another guy making a pass at her while drinking a drink that she’s mixed.

surgeonstone said: Finally, I have met a fellow tumblie I adore and who loves Breaker Morant. As a guy who loves women, not turned on by men but turned on by sucking cock, if that makes any sense , I wanted to ask if you have every tried a glory hole experience?

It’s an unrealized fantasy. And go you for being a dude not into dudes but still into dick.

tallmarriedprof said: Erin, long time lover of your tumblr -- and oftentimes your words even more than the erotic photos. But I must admit I was surprised by the recent post of the girl (in green, May 22) getting punched in the back of the head while being forced down. Forced oral can be super hot when the girl (or guy) is all in. But that image of her getting punched was a bit more misogynistic than I was expecting there. Thoughts?

Yeah, I pushed a personal envelope with that reblog. I was being in the moment.

I’m pleased that you’re enjoying the blog. Thank you.

mzfk said: So I haven't had sex in two years. It's starting to feel like it's something that exists only on the screens; I have lost the "reality" of it. So, thank you for keeping me grounded, for exposing your fantasies and reminding me that sex can and must be something fun and healthy and that I am not a freak. Cheers to you, Erin.

I want you to stand up and go to the nearest mirror. Once you’re there, I want you to take a very deep breath. Do it again. Keep doing it, slowly, until you start doing it without the conscious intention that you’re standing in front of a mirror and taking deep breaths while looking at yourself.

Now repeat after me:

"I am not a freak."

"I am not a freak, and just because things in my world may have turned out differently than what I might have wanted them to in the last few years, that doesn’t have to mean that I am broken or bad or terrible or that this will never change."

"I am a creative, sensual, expressive person, deserving of love. My sexuality is my own territory, sacrosanct and independent of anyone else’s approval. I dress as I wish, I eat as I wish, I laugh at what I find to be funny, and my sex is mine."